Hey there! It’s me, Heidi.
This week I went to the beach with two of the best ladies I know; and, as always, when I’m surrounded by inspiring people and an inspiring view, I tend to have some inspiring thoughts. I’d like to share what came to mind this week on my trip.
There comes a time in every girl’s life when she will walk out onto the beach and think, “eff it, nobody’s looking.” She will take the swimsuit cover off, throw her towel down, and strut her lumpy butt down to the water and have the time of her life. She will splash, she will swim, she will smile, and she won’t care who sees her. But it takes a while to get to that point. Trust me… I’m 29 and I’ve just now gotten there. When she does, she realizes that there’s no need to be self-conscious because nobody’s looking at her anyway. Those other people are having fun with their own friends and family. And heck, even if they are looking, what they’re thinking isn’t, “Wow, look at that loser.” No. They’re thinking, “Damn. I wish I had her confidence.”
Guess what… you can!
Well, I’ll tell you.
1. Buy a bathing suit you are COMFORTABLE in!
This is obviously easier said than done, I know. But, seriously, the second you stop worrying about finding a bathing suit that is super fashionable or in style that season and instead find one that actually fits your body, it will make all the difference in the world. What can be more uncomfortable and make you more self conscious than a bathing suit that doesn’t fit you well? I don’t know about you, but when I’m in the water I don’t want to worry about a sick wave knocking my top off. Amiright?
I’ve also found that, when it comes to swimsuit comfort, less isn’t always more. I recently bought a one-piece romper style swimsuit from Target that actually has more fabric than any other swimsuit I’ve had, but it holds everything in place and I don’t have to worry about showing parts of my body that I don’t want to be seen. I can move around freely, and it feels great! If you feel good, you will look good. Don’t worry about what “they” think.
2. Stop comparing yourself to other people.
It’s so easy to look at everyone around you at the beach and to start comparing yourself to the two or three super skinny, super fit, super tan, super blonde, teeny bikini wearing women who everyone seems to be noticing. DON’T DO IT. DON’T PLAY THAT GAME.
Comparison is the thief of joy.
Sure, go ahead and look around. After all, there’s lots of beauty to behold at the beach. But, instead of seeing all of the things you are not, focus on all of the things that you are. You are an amazing person made in God’s image and likeness, and you are blessed to be spending a glorious day in the sun. You may not look like a super model, but who does? Even super models don’t look like super models in real life. You are who you are, and you are PERFECT.
“Take a break from worrying about what you can’t control. Live a little.” -Passengers
You cannot control what you look like. You cannot control what other people may or may not think of you. So stop worrying about those things and LIVE. Live boldly.
3. Focus on what’s really important and RELAX.
Nothing gives you more confidence than beaching it with the right group of friends or family who are all about building you up. Stay OFF of social media and be present with your loved ones surrounding you. Bring a book, clear your head, listen to some music or let the sound of the waves soothe you. Grab some coconut oil, a handful of sand, and give yourself a beach pedi. Meditate, have a daiquiri, rent a kayak for a few hours and explore the deeper waters. Bring a notebook and write down any inspiring thoughts that come to you as you observe your surroundings. Get out of your head and LIVE IN THE MOMENT. Focus on all of the good things you have going on in your life, and the worry and anxiety will fall away.
In summary, know that you are awesome! Let loose, relax, take the cover up off, dive in, HAVE FUN!
There is no one on Earth as fabulous as you.
“You are enough. You are so enough. It’s unbelievable how enough you are.” -Sierra Boggess
Until next time,